Not and for a long time, all any about 5-7 years ago, many even did not hear about partner sorts. In olden time in Russia pregnancy and childbirth was especially female business, and the man at all had no access right to it.
In the presents childbirth with the assistant (whether it be the spouse, mum or sister) offer time to all future mummies. And in this connection there was a weight of disagreements and opposite opinions in this occasion. Whether it is necessary to do it? What possible consequences? Whom to take on joint childbirth?
Let's try understand together.
That such partner childbirth?
Partner childbirth is a childbirth with the assistant, more precisely, in родзале besides doctors and accoucheurs there is a person helping the lying-in woman. More often in this role the father of the child acts. In the western countries quite often as the partner mum, sister or the girlfriend of the giving birth woman acts.
The Primary goal of the assistant is a moral and physical support, creation of a comfortable psychological condition of the lying-in woman.
The Most important thing, it to be defined with motivation , what for it is necessary for you.
TH I am afraid one: I in general am afraid of hospitals and people in white dressing gowns. In the presence of the husband, me will be quieter.
TH I want, that the spouse has seen, how to me it will be heavy. That further concerned me more validly.
-It is now very fashionable: both everything, and I not to lag behind girl-friends.
TH I think, that joint childbirth, us even more will pull together spiritually.
TH I want, that nearby there was a person protecting my rights, to that a case if with me will arrive not so well.
Having defined with motivation, let's think, and whether it is necessary it is to the future father of the child.
Every year, more and more the man are interested in course of pregnancy of the wife, go together with it on ultrasonic, read books on pregnancy and sorts, and consider obligatory presence during sorts.
Here some simple councils which will help the future parents to make a correct choice: pro or contra joint sorts:
1. The future father should know, that really for it waits during sorts. For this purpose it is necessary for it to attend courses on preparation for sorts. To read the corresponding literature, to familiarise about the Internet - sites with similar subjects. The man should be prepared not only morally, but also should know as to behave during sorts, than it can help the wife during fights.
2. The man should itself wish to be present on sorts, from you should not proceed any pressure. After all as it is possible to give up to arrangements of the pregnant beloved! And, as is known on the statistican, percent of divorces at pairs in common giving birth, much above, than at the others. It is not necessary to force men if they do not want that.
3. To give birth costs "together" in the event that the man throughout all pregnancy was near to you, helped and empathized. It is very important, that the pair in common prepared for a birth of the kid. Otherwise, joint childbirth will be for it only an interesting adventure, performance. And hardly it will bring any advantage to the woman.
4. Joint childbirth strengthens kind relations between spouses. And on the contrary, if in a family «not all is smooth», misunderstanding atmosphere in a family can worsen reigns.
Now let's sum up above told and we will define the basic pro's and con's presence of the man on sorts.
PRO:
the-physical help of the man (during fights the woman can hang on a neck of the husband, it will facilitate its condition).
-Encouragement of the loved one.
-Adjustment of relations between medical staff and the wife.
The-men who were in common "giving birth" with the spouse of the kid, it is more quivering and
Carefully concern it.
CONTRA:
the-man's mentality can not sustain (often men at the sight of blood faint). As it can end for the man with stress or, as worst of variants, an impotence.
The-woman can test constraint and inconvenience before the man.
-Joint childbirth can negatively affect family mutual relations, especially it concerns intimate relations in the future.
If all of you have analysed, and have come to conclusion, that your spouse to concern that rare "kind" of men which is ready to test together with you all delights and difficulties of sorts, that, not reflecting, - forward! After all not it is for nothing in ancient Russia, just born baby it was accepted to turn in a shirt of the father to protect it in the future from all misfortunes.
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